Wow, Gillian, what an amazing post. I concur 100 percent. I have been using VERVE for 5 years now (having qualify as a therapist almost 20 years ago), and I, too, use the approach with all my clients, regardless of diagnosis & age. The approach has revolutionised the way I think about therapy & ‘needs’, putting regulation at the heart of everything & facilitating true ‘tuning in’ between client & interactive partner. As you say, Gillian, it enables the parent/carer/practitioner and therapist to move away from what’s not happening & instead to focus on what is happening: to meet the client where they’re at & to build from there.